Rebuilding trust after an affair has to be one of, if not the hardest thing for a couple to accomplish. After your life has been shattered by infidelity, any trust that was present in your relationship is also shattered and destroyed. It’s thrown out of the window in the blink of an eye.
Experts and laypersons would agree that trust is the very foundation that a successful relationship is built on. We’ve all heard that before.
However, when infidelity invades your relationship, that very foundation is destroyed as if hit by an earthquake.
Infidelity invaded our marriage over two and-a-half years ago and recovering from it has been a very long, emotional and stressful road. There have been many hurdles on our road to affair recovery, and probably one of – if not the largest – hurdle to get over has been that of trust.
Three Aspects to Trust After An Affair
Trust after an affair is not just believing that your spouse will never stray again. It’s also about understanding the affect that mistrust has had on you and your relationship.
It’s about learning to trust yourself and your ability to make sound decisions and allowing yourself to trust again.
And yes, it’s also about reestablishing the trust in your wayward spouse/partner so that you can go on to rebuild your relationship and live the happy life that you’ve envisioned.
After writing and interacting with hundreds of people on our Emotional Affair Journey blog, it became quite evident that restoring trust after an affair was the number one aspect that folks are struggling with.
In fact, we conducted a survey on our blog and nearly 70% of those who responded indicated that rebuilding trust was the number one issue that stands in the way of recovering after an affair.
We Rebuilt Trust After an Affair And So Can You!
Since we have been able to successfully rebuild the trust in our own marriage, we decided to put together a guide to assist others along their own road to rebuilding trust.
We are not therapists or counselors or relationship “experts.” We’re just a couple that has traveled the same road as you and wish to share what has been successful in our journey to rebuild trust after an affair.
As a result, we have written an e-book called “Journey to Trust: Rebuilding Trust After an Affair.” This is not just a book where we tell our story and hope that you can relate to it. It’s a practical, easy to read guide that includes an assessment, several exercises and strategies for which you can use to help you to rebuild the trust after an affair in your own relationship. It also comes with some awesome bonuses that are worth more than the price of the book alone.
Trust After an Affair Starts With You
In our opinion it’s most important to start the trust building process with your own core; trusting yourself, trusting your God or whatever higher power you believe in. But you have to have that inner core of yourself be something solid that you can trust in.
Let that spread to where you can trust in yourself, because you’re going to have to have a foundation to start rebuilding on, because literally, you’ve been destroyed and taken down to the foundation – if not beyond there – and you’re rebuilding.
If you feel that rebuilding trust after an affair is impossible, please take some time to read some of the other articles on this site as they may be beneficial to your trust process. If you want to skip to the chase, then check out our book.
Please click the following link now for more information, or to order “Journey to Trust: Rebuilding Trust After an Affair.”